Archive for January, 2011

Understanding the psychology of North and South KOREA!

January 21, 2011

Mark my words, soon North Korea will attack South Korea – again. How do I know that? The North bombed the South and the South asked for a peace conference! My first reasearch as a graduate student in psychology at the State University of California in 1970 was comparing Authoritarian and Egalitarian attitudes. In politics it would be comparing the governing style by people who usurp powers and the governing style of people who get elected. In business it would be people who work with you to accomplish a task or people who order you around. At home it would be a parent who shows you how to do a chore and a parent who force you to do it. Good, I got your attention! This posting isn’t only about South Korea and North Korea fighting each other, it’s about world peace! And, it’s about you and me! First, I want you to understand the dynamics of the conflict between a DEMOCRACY and a DICTATORSHIP, and second, I want you to understand the dynamics of the conflict between you as a free person and individuals you relate to who grew up in authoritarian homes, religions and cultures.

The reason I am successful in relationships is that my mother was a democratic type and my father was dictatorial. I learned early in life (in my teens) to work and play nice together with others in school, as my mother had taught me. My father, on the other hand, said, “Elior, don’t forget to think big and kick ass when someone steps on your toes.”

The problem with democracies like South Korea is that they didn’t “kick ass” when the North sank their ship and bombed their island. The problem with democracies like the United States is that they didn’t bomb Iran when Iran kidnapped 444 American diplomats. The problem with democracies is that they lose the motivation to “kick ass” when dictatorships attack them. Sure, they end fighting them and winning when they get sick and tired of being kicked around but at a greater cost because they had waited till the last moment to “kick ass.” A teacher is high school once asked me, “Elior, why did you break George’s  arm, he only tripped you in the playground. “I remember saying to the teacher, “My dad taught me that if I don’t kick back twice as hard for every kick I absorb, they’ll come back for more.” Interestingly, when I became a psychologist I understood it in a nicer way as “Contingency management of conflict resolution.”

In the 20th century, the Right was dictatorial and the Left was democratic. In the 21st century it’s the opposite, the Right is democratic and the Left is dictatorial. Capitalism is economic freedom, Socialism is economic control, Republicans  are for less political control over your life and Democrats are for more, Christians are for free behavior in relationships and Islamists are for total control of women,  Israel is a free society and Palestine is a controlled society, South Korea makes excellent LG (Life’s Good) appliances for the home and North Korea develops weapons to destroy homes. in short, there are two kinds of people in the world, those who relate openly and those who coerce, people who believe in the relative rights of the individual and those who believe in the absolute rights of the group over the individual!

Now you know what to do! If you are the open-minded, flexible democratic personality type, treat the dictatorial, rigid, authoritarian person you meet with RESPECT until he kicks your ass – and he will! Then, beat the shit out of him. He will become your friend and change for the better – guaranteed, if you do it right! (read the book by Dr. Robert Lindner “The 50 Minute Hour”). About your democratic government, you must influence YOUR democratic government to be more effective in dealing with dictatorship governments. At the present time all the dictatorships in the world are in conflict with the world’s democracies whether it is in Iraq, Afghanistan, Iran, North Korea, Lebanon, Syria, Palestine, or Pakistan. Make the world better, faster – by kicking ass as a response to kicking ass! Donald Trump is my hero, although he didn’t take conditioning as far as I did! Have great relationships! Read my 200 postings! It’s free! I care!

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INTENTIONALITY!

January 16, 2011

In the last segment on HAPPINESS I told you that the first step to permanent HAPPINESS is to know what the word INTENTIONALITY means. The dictionary defines the word to mean “Determination to act in a specific way.” It is a lot more than that. Philosopher G.E. M. Anscombe in her 1957 book Intention states that Intention is acting without a reason because the action and the intention are the same. True, but it is also a lot more than that. philosopher Jeremy Bentham believes that Intention comes from Consciousness. True, and, again, Intention is a lot more than that. I would not have knows what Intention is from just being a psychologist or a philosopher. I had to become a parapsychologist studying Spirituality for 30 years to get it!

Knowing Intention is the first step to Happiness. So, pay attention because what you are going to read next is unbelievable. Truth is always unbelievable – at first. Intention does not exist in the human mind! Consideration does! Then, where is it located? Intention is not relative or probabilistic. Then, is it absolute? Intention is not a thought. Then, what is it? With true intention you can never fail. How could that be? If you intend to be happy forever, you will become happy forever – guaranteed! So, what is the problem? The problem is that most writers about Intention, get only a part of it, not the whole picture. Intention comes from Consciousness as Bentham says, but what is Consciousness? It isn’t just awareness. It is pure awareness of WHAT IS AS IT IS  (Bhagavad Gita). Action and intention are the same, as Anscombe says, but what action can be generated outside the human mind?

Blogs have limited space, so let’s have a short cut to the definition of Intention that will be your first step toward eternal happiness: INTENTION IS A POSITIVE VERBAL OR NONVERBAL ACTION THAT EMERGES FROM AN INSTANT  IDEA THAT APPEARS  IN CONSCIOUSNESS AS A RESULT OF HAVING A CONDUIT TO UNIVERSAL CONSCIOUSNESS OUTSIDE YOUR MIND.  CONSIDERATIONS OF CONSEQUENCES DO NOT EXIST BECAUSE INTENTION ALWAYS LEADS TO 100% SUCCESS IN WHATEVER GOOD YOU ATTEMPT TO DO.  Test your intentionality, for example, if you intended to lose 20 lbs in 3 months and you succeed, you had Intentionality, if you intended to double your capital gain in 2011 and you did it, you had intentionality. About Happiness, it takes just a few minutes to be transformed with intentionality to a happy person forever (TBC).

Have you ever felt really happy??

January 15, 2011

DO YOU find it easy to get yourself to feel happy? What do you do to feel happy? Can you make yourself feel happy right now? What do you think is the scientific answer how to do it? Do you think what I will tell you in a minute will surprise you? Do you really want to fee happy or you just think that you do? Are you willing to do what it takes?  Yes, I was a psychological consultant to the National Enquirer for 10 years because no mainstream media dared to publish my peaceful revolution ACTION oriented “stuff.” (10% Rule). Even today, I appear only on MY websites and blogs and my books are self-published. Yes, I am happy all the time and I want you to be happy all the time too. You are my fellow human being and you have the right to be happy in this world NO MATTER WHAT! No, I won’t tell you right now how to do it, no. This isn’t cheap stuff. You want to be entertained, read novels. My blog is serious. Stay tune to my blog FOREVER and you might realise something profound about being human – it’s incredibly Godly! (I don’t mean the mind)!

HAPPINESS IS DOING A FEW THINGS FROM NOW ON FOREVER. TO DO THEM IS EASY, BUT TO GET PEOPLE TO DO THEM IS HARD. Are you interested? If not, why do you keep reading? If you are interested in becoming happy forever, start with finding the TRUE definition of INTENTIONALITY. You got to get that word right before I tell you the second step to permanent happiness. I will define INTENTIONALITY in the next segment so you can check out your research finding about the word. Most of you will get the definition wrong, but those of you that will get it right, stay tune to my GUIDING blog forever. YOU WILL BE HAPPY FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. To the others who will get the definition of INTENTIONALITY  wrong, all I can say is DON’T GIVE UP. One strike you are not out, three strikes and you are out.